Conrgrats to my cousin for “being with someone” (for those of you who dont already know). The have known each other for a week and altough this should be sure signs of disaster based on public opinion, they are actually quite good together. Now noticed that I didnt use the term “ my cousing got a girlfriend”. Are they now boyfriend and girlfriend? Does it even matter? Were they together before they announced it? When the kissed? Etc etc.
What does it mean to be in a relationship. I know a few people who are in relationships and all of them are different.
The passionate lovers who bicker and bite but in there hearts know they love each other. This begs the question: Can you be in love but not in a relationship? That might be an easy question to answer but consider the reverse. Can you be in a relationship but not be in love? When and how do you draw the line? Is the situation justified if there passionate love is equal to their passionate arguments? What are the prerequisites for being in a relationship? Omnia praesumuntur legitime facta donec probetur in contrarium?
The young lovers on the other hand are quite convinced that they are sweethearts. Passionate about love but can they survive the reality and hardships that presents itself in a real life relationship? How long can their innocence feed their relationship or are they ignorant? Amore vincit omnia?
Then there is the mythical elders. Who’s love is unconditional, pure and endless. So powerfull that it is unshakeable. Which turns out to be its greatest weakness. If, however slight, a mere speck of doubt should appear the entire relationship could shatter like glass. The price of absoluteness. Omne ignotum pro magnifico.
There is however one certainty I have. To me being together is like dancing. One needs support and must not demand it but still recieve it. It cannot be controlled. No one side is correct. The one provides where the other lacks and in turn would not want compensation. There is no compensation. To understand why just look at the definition for compensation out of The sage : The act of compensating for service or loss or injury. Is your relationship a service, loss or injury? Then do not expect to be compensated.
I am also certain that I... (am going to copy from people more talented than I(some more)) am... /bounce
In love ? Agree? Disagree? Comment ! Note the last one wasn't a question...
